Grave Maintenance and Gravestone Cleaning
A guide to grave tending, cleaning gravestones and grave maintenance services when you buy a plot in a cemetery
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Cemeteries and burial grounds may be owned and looked after by a local authority, private company, religious institute or a local trust. Each will have its own regulations to ensure that the graves and grounds are properly maintained so that the memorial ground is a space in which everyone can find peace and respectfully share.
Who is responsible for gravestone maintenence?
The family which owns the Deed of Grant is responsible for the grave maintenance, subject to the rules of the authority which owns the cemetery and looks after the grounds. Some cemeteries can have quite strict regulations about things people are permitted to do and what is expected of them. These may vary according to the type of burial plot chosen, or be subject to additional cemetery fees and charges.
When someone buys a burial plot, they are paying for the exclusive right for a loved one or family members to be buried there for a given period – usually up to 50 or 100 years. They are given a Deed of Grant, but do not own the ground that the plot is situated on.
Most lawn graves, for instance, allow for just a headstone with a small flower border immediately next to the memorial, so that the surrounding grass can be mown. Many families choose traditional graves, which may allow them to personalise their entire length and breadth, in tribute to their loved one. If a loved one was given a public health burial in a public grave, no identifying marker may be permitted at all.
Families will be notified by the cemetery owner of any safety issues regarding grave maintenance, but stones and tablets may be laid flat by cemetery staff if they are deemed to be a toppling hazard.
Grave maintenance, cemetery rules and regulations
It is wise to be aware of your chosen cemetery’s regulations before arranging for features such as ornamental gravel, grave surrounds, plants and grave decorations to mark your loved one’s life.
Many cemeteries focus on keeping the grounds orderly and tidy. Cemetery owners can reserve the right to remove items from graves for safety or maintenance reasons. They may have rules about the length of time that perishable tributes, such as wreaths and grave flowers, can be left before they are disposed of, for instance.
The given dimensions of every burial plot is very specific, to ensure that personal tributes do not encroach upon another family’s sanctuary, or onto open walkways
Some burial grounds are very strict. They may forbid grave decorations such as lights, wooden crosses, plant pots and plastic ornaments and can even remove them.
When this happens unexpectedly, it can be distressing for the bereaved. Most cemeteries provide details of their rules, which could help an informed choice to avoid upsetting circumstances.
Your funeral director may be able to advise you of your chosen cemetery’s regulations and the cemetery itself should be able to supply the information.
How to clean a Gravestone
The type of equipment you use for gravestone cleaning may depend on the type of stone that is made from. The memorial mason you bought it from should be able to advise about this, as well as on touching up lettering which has begun to fade.
Headstone cleaner sprays are commercially available and claim to help prevent the growth of algae and moss. Many experts do not recommend the use of household products containing bleach or acid for cleaning gravestones, however, as these can damage stone and make it vulnerable to erosion. If you are using more than soapy water for gravestone cleaning, it may be wise to first check with the cemetery that there are no regulations or conservation laws prohibiting your chosen headstone cleaner’s use.
Shiny surfaces can often be wiped over with a flask of warm water and a cloth or soft brush when cleaning headstones. Some people add a little liquid detergent to the water. Be gentle and avoid using harsh scourers or brushes when gravestone cleaning. This will scratch the stone’s surface and can attract mosses or algae.
Some people decide against cleaning gravestones at all and regard yellow lichens and gradual weathering as part of the story they have to tell.
Grave maintenance services
Specialist grave tending companies located around the UK offer gravestone maintenance and other services for when you don’t live nearby. These can offer peace of mind to people who cannot visit their loved one’s grave as often as they would like.
Grave maintenance services include gravestone cleaning, the replacement of gravel chippings, delivering fresh grave flowers, weeding and tending living plants, as well as ensuring that a loved one’s grave is regularly cared for and tidy. They can also take and send photographs of the spruced-up grave, to provide reassurance and comfort.