Barrie Sydney Oakes (17 Aug 1941 - 19 Jan 2019)

Aww Dad, can't believe three years have passed! Miss you sooo terribly. Hope you are happy and in peace up there. Love you always 💓 💗

Happy 80th birthday Dad. Love and miss you so much. Special day today with us all together. Hope you like the place you have been set free to. X x ❤❤❤❤❤

2 years today Dad. Miss everything about you, your humour, kindness, your voice and just being here! Heartbroken daughter, Julie x x

Dad, I cannot believe this is the 2nd Christmas without you. Love n miss you dearly. So glad you not here to endure this global pandemic. Sending you all my love x x

One year already wow! That’s the first anniversary of every event passed now but I do believe the next future ones will hurt as much. Miss you deeply dad things have changed so much for me over the last year and I wish I could share it with you, but if this is where I have to say I love you then here goes! I love you with every breath and heart beat I have in me and I hope you will be waiting for me up there. Oh and I am looking after your flowers don’t stress 💐

A whole year without you Dad! Gone but not forgotten. Missed but loved. Hope you are enjoying your planting, growing and harvesting in your beautiful garden up there. Love always. Julie x x

You were such an amazing, selfless and inspirational man Grandad. You always took care of Grandma no matter how ill you became even when you could no longer take care of yourself. I rememeber as a child we'd come round every Wednesday and watch Midsomer Murders together and you'd always make sure the biscuit tin was full so we could dunk them in cloudy lemonade😂😂 You'd pick me up and look after me everytime I took ill or my narcolepsy was bad at primary school. I remember you'd always tuck me into bed in the spare room and put a film on for me to watch whilst I'd try to nap. Though a lot of times the film you'd choose weren't always appropriate "Here you go Faye this looks like a good kids film for you" it was only bloody Carry On Camping!😂😂😂 We'd sit on the edge of Grandma's bed whilst she watched tele holding hands and take it in turns to squeeze eachother's fingers. Last time I saw you I squeezed your fingers but you never squeezed back. I will miss you forever. I love you Grandad 💖

You know all through my childhood, right through to being an adult you NEVER failed to make me laugh, sometimes uncontrollably. You always made such an effort to take care of us when we came over, taking us out shopping and you always had our favourite biscuits and cloudy lemonade on hand! We were so lucky to have you. I'll always cherish the time you spent with my kids, watching you and Ava in your little greenhouse picking tomatoes in the summer and you giggling at her chasing Tommy up the garden, holding Ronnie for the first time and telling me and Brad how much you thought he looked like Ava. We all loved you very much and you won't ever be far from our thoughts. Rest now and be free ❤
Love you lots Grandad
Laura, Brad, Ava, Ronnie and Zeus xxxxxxx

Grandad,
You were an amazing human being. Always a kind, caring, loving and generous gentleman without fail. You loved teasing everyone and were very good at it and your laugh was infectious. You always welcomed everyone into your home with open arms. I've never heard and still don't hear a bad word said about you. All my life I saw how much you loved your garden you treated it with as much love and care as you did people and it showed. I remember how more often then not especially if it was decent weather we'd come to visit and find you working away in your garden and remember as a kid at times helping you pick the tomatoes and green beans. Love and miss you forever x x x x x

Dad, it is now 8.20 pm exactly one week on from when I last held your hand during your last breath whilst losing you to a better place. I miss you so so much! Who is going to keep me busy solving problems now? I remember everything there is to remember, right from being a really little girl to the very last moments! It was always you Dad, never Mum, always you and you knew it!

You were the kindest, softest, dearest, polite and considerate person anyone could ever meet. You never once thought about yourself, always looking after others. I have never met anyone that has not said lovely kind complimentary comments about you Dad. Never a bad word spoken of you, this speaks volumes in itself, now that means you were definitely someone very special! You in turn, never had a bad word to say about anyone either. You were so very much, in character, like your Mum, my very dear Grandma Nellie Oakes, who was also the most nicest person anyone could wish to meet!

You were also the most naughtiest tease anyone could ever wish to meet too! You have teased so many people in a good humoured way, and filled their day with laughter on so many occasions.

I just hope that I can be more like you as I grow older.

Love you and miss you always Dad. Sleep tight and rest easy. Try not to cause any naughty chaos up there!

Heartbroken daughter Julie and son in law Ronald. x x x

A week ago today grandad. Watching the clock and the days pass by without you this week has been haunting. But the love and the memories I’ll forever have with you will remain strong and imbedded. My future children will know who their great grandad was and the influence you had on many lives. So extremely kind hearted and such the comidiean that I can see you in the rest of us family you have sadly left behind. Your personilty, sense of humour and life morals are in us all. A sense of you will live on with our family. I’m privileged to have a life being so close to you and mammar and I wouldn’t of had it any other way. So here’s to a week done without you and unfortunately more to come. Celebration is what we’ll do holding you deep in our hearts. Celebrating knowing you and having you in our lives. I love you more than you’ll ever know. Rest in peace grandad. Forever in my heart ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Barrie,
When we were kids living in Hyson Green with mum, dad and Malcolm we had nothing, we had more than some but by today's standards we had nothing. What we did have in abundance was an undeniable sense of belonging to a loving family, not just our immediate family but all our uncles, aunt's, cousin's and grandparents. We all lived close on the Green and we all looked out for one another.
I know through all the years that you looked out for me and that you were there for me if I ever needed you. I hope you realised that I was always there for you and your family because even though we perhaps did not see each other every week, you and yours were never long out of my thoughts.
I can only say to to you that it's been a privilege to have had you in my life and I'm honoured to have been able to call you my brother.
Rest In Peace Barrie, I will always love and miss you.

Dad well what can I say! You have been the best father I could have ever wished for you have completely broke me by leaving us and I don’t know what life will hold without being able to call and visit you. But for now I have a smile as all the funny times you gave us and unconditional love that I felt every visit and every call, I have never come across anyone with a bad word about you (not that I would let them) but everyone who cared for you took to your politeness and manners and your jokes you played on them. A huge part of me has died now you have left and I hope you will be waiting for me up there for when my time comes but for now I want everyone to know how loved you have always been and always will be just because you have left the love will never leave. Xxxx

You was the most kind hearted gentleman I think I'll ever meet and quite the comedian.
I love and miss you so much but knowing that your now at peace gives me comfort.You may be gone from my vision but you'll forever be in my heart.

Love & miss you so much already. Xx