I had the privilege of calling Brian a friend from the moment he arrived in Finchley from Dublin. We were Venture Scouts together, members of the Church Youth Group and socialised (in pubs - under age!!) for many years. Brian did me the great honour of being my best man, when I married Gill in March 1967. Gill & I enjoyed convivial meals at Kestrel Lodge and were delighted to have Brian & Barbara celebrate our Silver Wedding Anniversary. Sadly, our 60th in a few months time will have a large gap at the table! A lovely, kind and dutiful friend, father, grandfather & husband who will be sorely missed by all you had the pleasure and privilege of knowing him and having Brian in their lives. A terribly sad loss but thankful that he is now at peace in a better place.
Brian David Alexander Allen (9 Apr 1944 - 26 Sep 2026)
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In loving memory of Brian "Bede" David Alexander Allen who we sadly lost on Saturday 26th September 2026.
Brian was at the heart of our family, and we feel so fortunate to have shared our lives with him. Born in Dublin on 9 April 1944, he was a much-loved husband, dad, grandad, brother, and friend. His warmth, humour, and genuine interest in others made everyone feel welcome, and he always had time to listen, share a story, or bring a smile to someone’s face. The love and laughter he gave us will remain with us always, and we will miss him more than words can say.
Brian lived a full and varied life. His passion in his earlier years was racing minis, he enjoyed tending to his garden, growing vegetables and followed motor sport with great enthusiasm. He threw himself into supporting Irish rugby, dressing up for the occasion and cheering from the stands alongside Jamie and Barb. Brian also loved a party and was never happier than when there was dancing and a good sing-song to join in with. He took pride in his work as a Company Director and valued his time with the Scouting organisation. Above all, his family was at the heart of his life. Those closest to him will remember not only the things he did, but the warmth, humour, fun and curiosity he brought to every conversation and gathering.
Brian was always there for his family, generous with both his time and his help. He would happily drive Barbara to Manchester for them both to support Jamie at his many school events, and when Barb and Jenna lived alone, they knew they could call on him at any hour of the day or night. He would happily take Jenna to her weekly gymnastics and trampolining classes and numerous competitions and collect Barb midway through a training run if it became too difficult, take the dogs for their haircuts, pick up mid dog walking when caught in a storm, or water the garden and feed the cats while the family was away on holiday. Whatever was needed, however big or small, Dad never said no.
We are deeply saddened that Brian was diagnosed with dementia only in January 2025, and the speed of his decline was devastating. In August 2025, we had to return home from our holiday in Italy when he became
very unwell and he was admitted straight to hospital. After that, poor Brian suffered infection after infection and, together with the prostate diagnosis, these contributed to the rapid progression of the dementia. As painful as it is to say, we are thankful for Brian’s sake that his dementia journey was relatively short. Dementia gradually took away so much of the man we knew – his independence, his dignity, his personality and many of the little qualities that made him uniquely Brian.
A funeral or memorial service will be held at Eltham Crematorium on Thursday 5 November at 12:15. In lieu of flowers, the family welcomes donations to https://www.justgiving.com/page/barbara-miller-4
Please contact Barb directly (07989 437454) to let her know if you will be attending the wake following the service. This will take place at 3 Newnhams Close, Bickley, Kent BR1 2HW.
Brian will be remembered for the way he welcomed each of us with open arms, the laughter he brought, his fondness for taking charge, his love of sharing a story, and the genuine interest he showed in everyone he met. His spirit will live on in shared stories, treasured memories, and in the hearts of the family and friends who loved him.
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Brian enjoying the food at our 50th.
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What a wonderful set of photographs capturing a life lived to the full and packed with love and smiles. I’m so sorry for your loss - he was always the kindest soul and always welcomed us with a big smile and hugs. Sending you all our love xx
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Brian enjoying the food at our 50th.
Brian relaxing after our Silver Wedding bash.
Our Best Man 50 years on.
Brian & Bridesmaids 4-3-67
Privileged to have had Brian as my Best Man 4-3-67.
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