Oliver Matias (26 Jul 1989 - 8 Jul 2026)

My dear friend Oliver,

You left a mark on my heart more than you ever knew, more than I ever knew.
I have thought of you fondly and often over the last few years.
If only I knew what you went through.
If only I took the chance to tell you how much our friendship meant to me.
How much I missed it. I thought there was still time.

Since learning of your passing, I see your face, feel your presence and hear your laughter.
Your deep voice echoes in my head and I smile at us laughing at our favourite jokes, over and over. Jokes that often did not seem funny to anyone but us. Apples with attitude.
Laughing our hearts out at the simplest of things. It felt so easy to do that with you.

Your last email to me was brief, but playful, full of hope and your signature sense of humour.
A piece of my heart goes out to you, wherever you are, my long lost best friend.
You used to call me jewel, but the truth is the real jewel was always you.

Dear Oliver,
May you rest in peace.

Dearest Oliver,
We send loving, compassionate thoughts and energy to you, your family & friends. Rest in deep peace. Yafeu & Margot xx

Dear Oliver, you will be greatly missed. One of the sweetest and kindest souls I have met. I am so fortunate to have gotten to spend the time with you that we did. Lots of love always and thinking of you 💙💙💙

Rest in eternal peace, free of worldly suffering 🕯️

In loving memory of Oliver.

May all sentient beings be endowed with happiness. May they all be separated from suffering and its causes. May they be endowed with joy, free from suffering. May they abide in equanimity, free from attachment or aversion.

- Padmasambhava

Ollie,

It is difficult to put into words the heartbreak I felt when I heard of your passing.

You always welcomed me with a hug, a smile and good conversation. I will always remember the times we spent together with Nannie, your mum and Grace, sitting around the dining table either laughing or debating while eating some of the delicious food. Those moments around that table are memories I will hold on to.

From all the messages and correspondence your mum has received, it is clear that you lived your life in a way that so many of us aspire to. You were kind, caring and thoughtful, not simply through your words, but through your actions. You gave your time, your compassion and yourself to helping others, and in doing so, you made a real difference to so many people's lives.

Perhaps most remarkably, you spent so much of your life trying to ease the suffering of others, even while carrying suffering of your own. That says so much about the person you were.

You leave behind a beautiful legacy: not only in the memories of those who knew and loved you, but in the lives you touched and the people you helped. I feel incredibly fortunate to have shared those moments with you.

You will be deeply missed and fondly remembered.

Love, Brett

Oliver,

You are one of the most lovely, kindest and most compassionate people I have known. I will remember the deep conversations, your amazing sense of humor and also those amazing chocolate brownies. We miss you!

So hope you are now at peace my lovely nephew

Oliver,
I’m so sad to hear that you are no longer with us.
You were such a kind, compassionate and lovely person to work with.
Every time I walk past Pret, I’ll think of your enthusiasm for your Pret coffee subscription!
You will be missed. Rest in peace xxx

Oliver during his life developed a 'divine' vision - St. Thomas Aquinas describes the situation as thus:

Those who obtain ultimate happiness from the divine vision never fall away from it, because whatever at one time is, and another time is not, is measured by time. Now the vision in question is not in time, but in eternity. No one having once partaken thereof, can lose it.

Oliver saw the vision and obtained eternity.

With love from, Nannie xxx

Dear Ollie,
A quote from the Yoga Sutras for you:

‘In realising the oneness of life and death, this frees him from afflictions and sorrows, and he lives forever in the flow of tranquility.’

I will miss you Oliver. I greatly valued and loved our friendship. You made me laugh, had such a kind caring, soul, and will forever miss you. You meant alot to everyone who got to know you - sometimes more than I think you knew. I hope you are at peace my lovely friend.

He has been made whole
He is healed and at peace
No more striving and searching
No more anger and exhaustion
No more trials and tension
At rest accepting the essence of who he is
Loved and being loved
Holy forever.

Since your passing mate. I think of you daily. Your friendly countenance towards me and so many others. You were wise beyond your years and so kind in your nature. Will miss you in this world but as you were into Buddhism wishing you will find the peace and tranquility in the next you so richly deserve. X

Just a perfect day!A day I will never forget.I cannot believe my beautifully unique son Oliver has gone.
But I still feel him in the wind,the warmth of the sun and I will feel him in the rain when it comes!I see him in the beauty of flowers,trees,birds and the animals he so loved.I will remember him when I look at the moon which he loved to watch.
I can now see that although Oliver's life with us was so short it had great purpose and meaning.It is clear that he had an impact on the lives of many from the messages I have received.
I am so grateful for all your comments and donations.
We as a family find great comfort from this, together with the knowledge that he has now found Eternal Peace.