Duncan Alexander (10 May 1954 - 28 Jun 2026)

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Duncan sadly died at Glenfield Hospital on 28th June 2026, aged 72 years. Beloved partner to Tim, and a dear friend to many. Duncan will be sadly missed and fondly remembered by all who loved him.

His funeral will take place at Bretby Crematorium on 24th July at 11.30. Then on to the Golf Club for drinks and refreshment.

Duncan was born in Dalbeattie, in South West Scotland, and brought up by his aunt Nancy, whom he absolutely adored.

When he left school, Duncan went to drama school in Glasgow and made his stage debut in 'Love on the dole' at the Citizen's Theatre, where he also acted in the Cherry Orchard. Duncan then spent time in France and worked in Nice at the airport, where he used his excellent French to good effect, selling perfume in the duty-free shop. After drama and English, French was his second favourite subject at school.

Acting is not a stable career and so Duncan's aunt put her foot down and arranged a job for him with the Bank of Scotland, in Regent's Street in London. Here, he met Luisella, who has been his life-long friend and like a mother to him, after his aunt sadly died, aged only 62. Duncan's next career move was to the French bank Credit Lyonnais, where he made the most of his French language skills and also began to work in international trade finance.

From Credit Lyonnais, Duncan went to work for Meridien Bank in Piccadilly, next door to the Ritz and handy for Fortnum and Mason. Duncan loved to shop!

This was in 1993 and the same year that he and Tim met and began a life together. Meridien Bank was full of the strangest set of characters and quirky goings-on ever and Duncan loved it there. Each day, he came home with a new story. The key to the vault was kept under a stapler on his desk and one day he arrived for work, when they had a delivery to find the front door was propped open with a box of files marked 'Strictly Confidential'. One of his more senior colleagues always warned that the place was 'a house of cards' - she was right. Duncan was sent to the Bahamas with a view to them setting up an office there and when he got back the bailiffs had come and it had all but gone. On the last day, they sat on the floor with just a phone and a notepad.

Duncan then went to work for Michael Djanogly - there were various iterations of the companies and different office spaces in the West End and this working relationship with Michael was the one that really stood the test of time. He just stayed.

Duncan was as loyal an employee as there could ever be and he adored working with Michael, who was a hugely positive influence in his life. In this time, Duncan met and worked with Pietro and Julian and they became firm friends. He loved working (and playing) with them - often the working days ended early in the pub and extended into the early hours of the next day. But, Duncan always got up for work the next day.

Tim and Duncan lived in two different houses in the same road in North London. Then, in 2014 the city of Gandia in Spain became part of their lives too. It is a place where many happy days were spent. Here, Duncan made many friends - too many to name - but Cristina, Amparo, Javi, Antonio and Joan must be mentioned in particular. When he was ill there last summer and spent four weeks in the hospital, their dedication to him was exceptional. In 2024, Duncan also celebrated his 70th birthday in Gandia and this was a day that made him truly happy and left him feeling truly loved. His Spanish was never as fluent as his French but he loved learning it and was doing grammar practice in his last few days in hospital.

In 2016, Tim and Duncan moved to Bretby Lane, just around the corner from Tim's mum, who subsequently moved in with them, when she was unable to cope on her own. Here, they were welcomed into a community of lovely neighbours and struck up a very special friendship with Paula and Mick, who have been a great support in difficult times. They also share Duncan's love of dogs. Shandy lived to be 22, Tommy (who came to Burton with Tim and Duncan) made it to 16 and more recently the wonderful little Jack came into Duncan's life. Zoe, who helps to look after Tim's mum, also became one of Duncan's favourite people and her kindness has been a huge help for Tim, now that Duncan has gone.

Duncan loved to travel and in the last years spent as much time abroad as he could. Duncan's life was not long by the standards of the times but it was incredibly full and rich and varied. He knew how to enjoy himself and enjoy himself he did!

Duncan's love was dogs, not flowers - donations are much appreciated to the rescue centre where Jack came from, which is linked elsewhere.

En español:

Duncan falleció lamentablemente en el Hospital Glenfield el 28 de junio de 2026, a los 72 años. Pareja querida para Tim y amigo querido para muchos.

Duncan nació en Dalbeattie, en el suroeste de Escocia, y fue criado por su tía Nancy, a quien adoraba absolutamente.

Cuando terminó la escuela, Duncan fue a la escuela de arte dramático en Glasgow y debutó en el escenario en 'Amor entre los desempleados' en el Citizen's Theatre, donde también actuó en ‘El huerto de cerezos’. Duncan pasó entonces un tiempo en Francia y trabajó en Niza, en el aeropuerto, donde utilizó su excelente francés con buen resultado, vendiendo perfume en la tienda libre de impuestos. Después de teatro, el francés era su segunda asignatura favorita en la escuela.

El teatro no es una carrera estable, por lo que la tía de Duncan usó un enchufe y le consiguió un trabajo en el Banco de Escocia, en Londres. Allí conoció a Luisella, que ha sido su amiga de toda la vida y como una madre para él, tras la triste muerte de su tía, con solo 62 años. El siguiente paso profesional de Duncan fue en el banco francés Crédit Lyonnais, donde aprovechó al máximo sus conocimientos en francés y también comenzó a trabajar en la financiación del comercio internacional.

Desde Credit Lyonnais, Duncan empezó a trabajar para Meridien Bank en Piccadilly, al lado del Hotel Ritz y muy cerca de Fortnum and Mason, una tienda de super-lujo. ¡A Duncan le encantaba ir de compras!
Esto fue en 1993, el mismo año en que él y Tim se conocieron y comenzaron una vida juntos. Meridien Bank estaba lleno de personajes y acontecimientos extraños y a Duncan le encantaba trabajar allí. Cada día, volvía a casa con una nueva historia. La llave de caja fuerte que se guardaba bajo una grapadora en su mesa o bien un día que llegó para trabajar en el mismo momento de una entrega y descubrió que habían mantenido abierta la puerta principal con una caja de archivos marcada como 'Estrictamente confidencial'. Una de sus colegas más veteranas siempre advertía que el lugar era 'un castillo de naipes' — y tenía razón. Duncan fue enviado a las Bahamas con la intención de que montaran una oficina allí y, cuando regresó, no quedaba prácticamente nada. El último día, trabajaron en el suelo solo con un teléfono y una libreta.

Duncan luego empezó a trabajar para Michael Djanogly: hubo varias versiones de las empresas y diferentes oficinas en el West End de Londres, pero esta relación de trabajo con Michael fue la que realmente resistió el paso del tiempo.

Duncan era un empleado tan leal como se podía haber y adoraba trabajar con Michael, que fue una influencia muy positiva en su vida. Durante ese tiempo, Duncan conoció y trabajó con Pietro y Julián, y se hicieron grandes amigos. Le encantaba trabajar (y jugar) con ellos; a menudo las jornadas laborales terminaban temprano en el bar y se prolongaban hasta altas horas del día siguiente. Pero Duncan siempre se levantaba para ir a trabajar al día siguiente.

Tim y Duncan vivían en dos casas diferentes en la misma calle en el norte de Londres. Luego, en 2014, la ciudad de Gandía en España también pasó a formar parte de sus vidas. Es un lugar donde se pasaron muchos días felices. Allí, Duncan hizo muchos amigos —demasiados para nombrarlos todos— pero hay que mencionar especialmente a Cristina, Amparo, Javi, Antonio y Joan. Cuando estuvo enfermo allí el verano pasado y pasó cuatro semanas en el hospital, su dedicación hacia él fue excepcional. En 2024, Duncan también celebró su cumpleaños (70) en Gandía y ese fue un día que le hizo realmente feliz y le dejó sintiéndose realmente querido. Su español nunca fue tan bueno como su francés, pero le encantaba aprenderlo y estaba practicando gramática hasta en sus últimos días en el hospital.

En 2016, Tim y Duncan se mudaron a Burton on Trent, justo a la vuelta de la esquina de la madre de Tim, que posteriormente se mudó con ellos cuando ella ya no podía apañárselas sola. Allí, fueron recibidos en una comunidad de encantadores vecinos y entablaron una amistad muy especial con Paula y Mick, quienes han sido un gran apoyo en tiempos difíciles. También comparten el amor de Duncan por los perros. Shandy vivió hasta los 22 años, Tommy (que vino a Burton con Tim y Duncan) llegó a los 16 años y, más recientemente, el maravilloso pequeño Jack entró en la vida de Duncan. Zoe, que ayuda a cuidar de la madre de Tim, también se convirtió en una de las personas favoritas de Duncan y su amabilidad ha sido de gran ayuda para Tim, ahora que Duncan se ha ido.

A Duncan le encantaba viajar y en los últimos años pasó todo el tiempo que pudo en el extranjero. La vida de Duncan no fue larga para los estándares de la época, pero fue increíblemente plena, rica y variada. ¡Sabía cómo divertirse y disfrutar, de verdad!

El amor de Duncan eran los perros, no las flores; las donaciones son muy apreciadas al centro de rescate de donde vino Jack para ayudar a otros perritos como él.

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Paula Stasiuk wrote

Text to Duncan the morning after: Morning sweedy! A bit tearful this morning but remembering those times we joked about our funeral wishes. Well my friend, your final show went down a storm! Never have I been in a room so full of respect, love and laughter. I heard the comment “best funeral ever” multiple times. Tim did you proud! You would have loved it, you were there with us all. Loved meeting all your friends you talked about so often.
Rest in peace my friend ‘til we meet again.
PS, the orange handles looked fab!
PPS, nobody said anything bad.

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Francesco Carta wrote

It took me a while to write this… I think I’ve struggled to find the right words, and in truth, when it comes to Duncan, words will never be enough.

He and Tim gave my wife and me the chance for a new life during one of the hardest periods we’ve ever faced. They were not just friends to us, but also guides, advisors, and, in many ways, like family.

Because of a misunderstanding and their move to Bretby, we haven’t seen each other for years. But my affection for Duncan—and for Tim—has always remained, deeply rooted in my heart.

Duncan was always a joyful person. He had the right words at the right time, and he truly knew how to live life to the fullest. And he did. I like to think he had no regrets, except perhaps not having the chance to live another thousand years.

Duncan, wherever you are now, there is only one thing I want to say, loud and clear: thank you for everything you did, for me and for us. I will carry you with me, always.

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Brenda Barnes wrote

I was very sorry to hear of the death of Duncan I had lost touch with the Spanish class but Duncan made it a lot of fun and I know he liked my cakes xx

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Barry Talbot wrote

So sorry to hear that you have gone i will remember you always good by old friend love you barry

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Kelly Lees wrote

Although I only knew Duncan for a short time, I thought he was simply lovely. A happy, smily, funny person who I instantly took to. So very sad to hear of his passing

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Siempre kedaran estos momentos

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Joan Belda wrote

Tim ya sabes que Kleber y yo sentimos mucho tu perdida. Lo echamos mucho de menos un fuerte abrazo de nuestra parte. Siempre vivirá en nuestros corazones.

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ELAINE GAFFNEY wrote

With fond memories of Duncan whose wicked sense of humour was infectious and livened up our Spanish classes. He will be remembered for his bonhomie and twinkling smile. With sincere condolences to Tim.

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Esas tardes con los amigos echando unas risas...😍😍

Esas tardes con los amigos echando unas risas...😍😍

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Nuestras tardes de chiringuito en la playa 😍

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Hace dos años..😔😔😔

Hace dos años..😔😔😔

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Denise Currie wrote

Dear Tim, I have many happy memories of Duncan - he was always so full of life and fun. I remember meeting him for the first time in your house in Muswell Hill, our trip to the Picos for Lucas’s christening, at my birthday in 2023 and, of course, our trip to Gandia for Duncan’s seventieth. All such happy times and it makes me so sad that he has been taken too soon. A lovely friend - we will all miss him very much - and such a heartbreaking separation for you. You are both in my thoughts. Xx

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In Riaño in August 2023 for Lucas’ christening

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Paula, Mick, Buddy & Barney Stasiuk wrote

Weeks have passed since we lost our dear friend Duncan. We miss you every day. There is an empty chair at our table where you sat enjoying a “sunset wine” whilst Jack played in our garden. We miss your company, your stories and, most of all, the laughter. 9 years seems such a short time to have known you but our memories of you will last a lifetime.
Tim we are so sorry for your loss. Your love and care for Duncan, especially over this last difficult year has touched us both. You will always be part of our lives. In time the sadness will fade and memories of all the good times spent with Duncan will make us smile again.
Rest in peace sweedy.

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Young Duncan!

Young Duncan!

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The first holiday together in 1994!

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Luisella Tell wrote

Duncan, Duncan, my love, my son. You are not gone; you live on with me. When we met you were only 18; I ,28. Both in a new country and new adventure. I put you under my wing to protect you. You were my only friend and support Do you remember our holiday in Wales? The funniest and happiest holiday in my life. We were young and thinking to be like that for ever.
You were the best man at my wedding and Howard and I we were very pleased when you met Tim as you found stability and love. You both were a great support for me, when I lost my husband. You should never have gone before me. As long as I live, you will be in my heart. Don’t go away, Duncan, my love, my son.

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