Dad used to say,
“It is what it is.”
Not because he didn’t care.
Because he understood.
No fuss, no pretending,
no dressing life up
as something it wasn’t.
He met things as they came,
honestly, fairly,
and with that calm of his
that made everything feel
a little less heavy.
He was a doer.
First one down the boat club,
kettle on,
Old Holborn in the air,
already busy,
already helping,
already exactly
where he belonged.
The boatyard was his happy place.
His extended family.
His bit of the world.
The oldest member,
the project manager,
still making pontoons
right up until his last weeks.
That was Dad.
Useful.
Needed.
Loved.
And still getting on with it.
He loved the road as well.
The music, the stories,
touring with Terry Reid,
driving to new places,
meeting new people,
always ready
for the next adventure.
But however far he went,
and however much he loved the journey,
he always came home.
And when life got too much,
I called Dad.
I’d rant.
He’d listen.
Then somehow,
without making a drama of it,
he’d bring me back
to what was right,
what was fair,
and what I already knew
deep down.
I’m going to miss those chats
more than I can say.
Dad meant different things
to different people.
A friend.
A storyteller.
A steady hand.
A bit of mischief.
A wise word.
A kettle on.
But to me,
he meant home.
And I can hear him now,
steady as ever,
telling us,
“It is what it is.”
And what it is,
is goodbye.
What it was,
was a life well lived.
And what it will always be,
is love.
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