John Richard Selby (31 Jan 1968 - 5 Sep 2021)

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Location
Kemnal Crematorium A20 Sidcup Bypass Chislehurst BR7 6RR
Date
29th Sep 2021
Time
2pm
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Location
Old Salt Quay 163 Rotherhithe Street London SE16 5QU
Date
29th Sep 2021
Time
4.30pm

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In loving memory of John Richard Selby who sadly passed away on 5th September 2021

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John as a young and lovely boy who grew into a lovely man

John as a young and lovely boy who grew into a lovely man

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Yvonne Hearn wrote

John (Baby John) As I always referred to you when speaking to you or about you, a little embarrassing in later life, sorry. You were one of life’s most genuine and positive people, who did not have a bad bone in your body or a bad word to say about anyone. Your forever smile, laugh and humour will alway be remembered, even in the last few weeks of your life you still managed a smile and laugh, especially when Jayne & I were with you & David for mum’s birthday. The way you & David were so kind and caring in the last years of dad’s life and the support you gave to mum. I am posting a photo of you as mine & John’s Page Boy, that smile then and all through you life has never disappeared. You will be greatly missed by everyone who’s lives you have touched. A Great Guy and a lovely person.
Love and thoughts to Ricky, Doreen, David, Sarah, Michael & Jonathan
God Bless Yvonne, John, Katie, Michael & James

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A Cousin (once removed and a long way off)) wrote

What to say … what to say?
If the world were less appalling and more just than it is, the banner above would read something like "John Richard Selby, Victoria Cross”, for John’s kindness, good humour and good sense were only surpassed by his truly humbling bravery, which he showed in the face of all sorts of daunting adversity: a rare hero.
The complete diamond geezer, whose sparkle shone on all those round him, he reminds us that “Life remains a blessing, although you cannot bless”. The sorrow, accordingly, runs very, very deep…

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Barbara Andrews wrote

John, I have watched you grow from a small boy to the lovely man you became. As your life progressed you moved away but you was always around visiting mum & dad and joining in lots of family events. The way you coped with the last years of your Dads life was so lovely to see. You were so patient and kind. Instead of now enjoying the rest of your life you have suffered and left us all feeling such sadness. Love to Ricky, Doreen, Sarah, Michael and Jonathon. X

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Jo & Dave Daniels wrote

I was so lucky to have you as my cousin and I have so many precious memories of us growing up together.You had the best personality, infectious laugh and the warmest smile. You were taken from us too early and I just hope that you have joined and are now organising all our special loved ones ❤️ All my love Jo x

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To John A True Gentleman
It has been an absolute pleasure knowing you all these years and you will be
sorely missed, thanks for all the memories.
God Bless and all our love
Val & Terry

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Trish Casey-Green wrote

To our lovely, sweet John. What a privilege to have known you, especially through our formative years. We all needed a "John" in our lives and you were it. That beaming smile, that sense of humour, and a kindness that we all admired. God bless you, our very own forever friend. With love to Doreen, Ricky, David and family now and in the time ahead xxx

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Jayne Anderson-eade wrote

We will miss you very much John. Every time I think if you I can hear thatlaugh and see that lovely smile. I think back to many years ago when you worked at IPC with me for a while. What a laugh we had! Wasn't like work, just a 5 day week social club. Can remember being in the Rec with you David and mum when my lovely kev and I were kids. Having tea sitting round your mum's kitchen table when you were small. You have been so brave and you never moaned. Always so positive until the end. We will miss you very much

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cheryl corbett wrote

To our Beautiful John.

The Sun shines a little less brighter today knowing you are not here to light up our lives, your beautiful Smile and filthy infectious laugh always made me happy.

Thank you for being my friend, you are one in a million.I'm gonna miss forever.

Until we meet again
Love Always
Chez Xx

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Tracey Gilbert wrote

My dearest Jabes.

I can’t remember not having you in my life - and that’s because you always were. You were the one that first took me to drama, the one my mum trusted to after me. When I grew like topsy you were one of the only boys tall enough to dance with! And whenever I wanted to talk you were always the sensible one. I was lucky to live in the same street my whole childhood and then when we moved out we got flats one on top of the other!

And I am so privileged to have maintained that connection to you. We have laughed together every year, danced and drunk and chatted as part of our Waterloo mob!

You, my friend, were one of the most special people I have ever known. Born kind, you looked for the good in everyone, never compromised or changed who you were and never stopped being the best of fun.

Will love you forever!

Xxx

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Carlo Capelli wrote

Dear John, you always had a smile on your face and were a gentle soul, definitely one of life's good ones. Sleep easy my friend, until we meet again. God bless

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Marc.warris@btinternet.com Warris wrote

Jabes,
Where do I start…
We have been friends for over 45 years - The Rec, Cubs, Scouts, Two Trips to America, Menzies, Wedding, Parties, it seems forever….

I am proud to call you my friend & have always be honoured that you chose me to be a constant part of your life.

RIP, travel safe, until we meet again

Marc
Xxxxx

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Paul Warris wrote

Dear John. You brought a smile to all of our faces. Your wicked sense of humour was infectious. Thanks for being such a big part of our lives. Rest in peace until we all get ti be together again. Thoughts and love to Doreen, David, Sarah, Ricky and the boys.
Midge, Michelle, Charlotte and George. Xxx

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