In loving memory of Jacqueline 'Jackie' Dolman who sadly passed away on 29th December 2018.
The Tribute made by Ian Dolman (Brother)
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about”
“Be kind always”
A quote from the great Robin Williams
Jackie Mum of K & J Sister to me and Ross and daughter to my loving M&D and auntie to Lauren, Callum, Rhys, Joseph and Archie daughter to my loving M&D, who I speak on behalf today was in this battle that become a disease and that ultimately cost her life cut short at just 51 years of age. The last 5 or so years have been dramatic to many who new and helped Jackie. She tried many times to overcome the disease which in the end took her life away. I would like to thank at this point the Queens hospital staff who on many occasions did their very best to help Jackie along with One Recovery who specialise in addiction diseases and on more than one occasion did their very best to get Jackie away from the disease. Then there is special thanks to Jimmy Robb her close neighbour and Alec and Tina who were Jackie’s close family who dedicated unselfish time..
Jackie underneath the traumatic last few years was a warm lovely person with always a smile for all occasions. The youngest of three children she had the constant harassment from two older brothers. Always a Horninglow girl born on Oct 1967 in Victoria Street a baby girl that my Dad was proud to eventually have! At this time we lived in a 2 bedrooom house with the outside toilet a place not to go as it was always freezing and had big spiders, along with Wasps something Jackie would go hysterical about when in close proximity. The family moved to Stafford Street around 1972 where Jackie spent some 30 years growing up and maturing into a fun-loving person. As a family we often ventured to Rhyl/Skegness and Mablethorpe for our summer holidays and of course bonny Scotland. Our Mum would always insist we take a holiday to “Jock Land” where wild animals such as Haggis roamed the hills (which we were told when shot arms and legs would fall off and you eat the body) and you would get the best food, the best clothing the best everything when quoted by Mum. She would have nothing compared to England which was always 2nd best….
Weekends on a Saturday night were spent at Eton Park Social club where a game of bingo and a live band was the agenda for the night. I personally became hooked on rock & roll music and used Jackie at home as my partner to practise the “Jive” which was great fun even though Jackie was thrown around the room at an alarming rate…..
Jackie left Wulfric School at 16 and started work at what was Robirch (now Kerry Foods) There she made very good friends with Mandy, Paula, Sharon, Diane and many more… Nights out were a plenty including holidays abroad with her close friend Dawn Ellson. You will shortly see a montage of photographs paying tribute to these times…She also enjoyed time with her Niece and Nephew (Lauren and Callum) and would take them swimming on Saturdays with the music blaring with the her regular song at the time “Because your Gorgeous” by Lady Bird
I do anything for you,
because your Gorgeous,
I know you get me through
This song had very apt words other interesting lyrics that quickly educated our children.
Sunday lunches were spent at M&Ds for many years and it was always a pleasure to see Jackie surface after 1pm to say hello with a grunt after a heavy night on the town….
Eventually Jackie settled down and started a family living in Barton under Needwood and had her two sons. Kieran born on July 21st 1999 now 19 years old then Jesse Born Nov 11th 2001 now 17 years old. Jackie contrary to the difficult last few years loved her children and no doubt the upbringing of Kieran along with the animal rights problems targeting the family did not help with a stable family environment.
Jackie had many jobs during spanning 1995 to 2004 working as:-
- -Catering Cook at Snak Pak
- Post Women with the Royal Mail
- Care worker at caring Hands
- Customer Service assistant at the Cooperative
Jackie had many hobbies in her earlier years including horse riding, Swimming and reading Science & Fiction and True Crime.
Jackie did not always show it but was very proud of her family and her two strapping brothers. This was evident as a bridesmaid to My wedding and that of her Brother Ross at his wedding in Scotland. Jackie did agree with me though that wearing a Kilt you had to do this in “Commando” style which Ross bottled out of but me no chance and photo’s on the day prove that……
I will now leave you with 2 quotes which some up the family’s feelings and hope you enjoy the wonderful montage of pictures in celebrating the life of Jackie..
“God saw you getting weary, so he did what he thought best, he put his arms around you and whispered come and rest”
My M&Ds final words do their daughter;
“Death may leave a heartache no one can heal but love leaves a memory that no one can steal. We shall miss you dearly Jackie with much love and affection your loving Mum and Dad….