Trystan Potter (23 Mar 1988 - 14 Jan 2015)

Funeral Service

Location
Gorleston Crematorium Chapel Oriel Avenue Gorleston NR31 7JJ
Date
20th Feb 2015
Time
3.20pm

Funeral Reception

Location
Kings HeadSt John's RoadBeltonNR31 9JT
Date
20th Feb 2015
Time
4.30pm

In loving memory of the late Trystan Potter who sadly passed away on 14th January 2015.


Trystan was born on the 23rd of March 1988 at the James Paget Hospital in Gorleston. He was the second of three children born to dawn and Brian along with his big brother, Daniel and his little sister, Emily. In those days the family

lived at Leman Road, not too far from here and Trystan did his growing up and schooling in Gorleston, going to Cliff Park School.
He was a fairly quiet lad as a youngster and he was very close to his big brother. When their little sister came along both boys adored her and there would often be squabbles as to who sit with her.
Although he was quiet Trystan still got up to his fair share of mischief. He and his friend, Craig were caught by the Police, setting a fire one day. It was an experience that taught him a lesson and the police scared the daylights out of him for that.
Both Daniel and Emily will tell you that Trystan was Dawn's favourite. If there was anything to get away with, Trystan was the one who would. He had a very good sense of humour and was very much like his dad when it came to that.
The family enjoyed their holidays together and there were trips to Canada and Spain. Brian remembers that in Spain they all visited a water park and had a great time. Later on Trystan had some good times on holiday with his friends-to Amsterdam and on a broads cruise-we'll hear more about those in a little while I'm sure.
When he was sixteen Trystan finished school and went on to College but he hated it. He got a job at a chicken factory for a little while and then went to work for TMS Media on the Gapton Estate. Now he had found the real direction he wanted to go in. he worked as a Web Developer and stayed with the company from 2005 until 2012 before moving to Affinity New Media.
Trystan decided that he wanted to do much better for himself and off his own back he took on a degree course to study Computer Sciences. He worked hard and funded his studies himself at the UEA from 2009 and in 2013 he achieved his goal, gaining his degree. At the age he was it was a massive achievement for him, reached by his own determination and drive. On his graduation day the family went to see him gain his degree and he persuaded his mum to enjoy a drink. The trouble is that Dawn wasn't used to what was on offer cider- and by the time the formal ceremony started, Dawn was a bit tiddly. It was all fine though- until it came to Trystan getting up for his presentation. Then the cider kicked in! I'll leave the rest to your imagination!

He was a good hearted man. He would do anything to help anyone and he was very good at problem solving, sorting out money matters and he was brilliant when it came to math's.
He loved his music and had quite a wide range in his taste but some of it was a bit 'off the wall' too. Tupac was one of the artists he listened to an awful lot.
I could go on talking about all the different facts about Trystan's life but there is a lot more to him than facts. We will hear about the real person that he was from his family, friends and boss in a little while.
Trystan has left you all far too soon. Nothing we could do can change that but to keep him alive in your hearts and minds you all have the memories of those shared times. Memories are no substitute for the man he was but they are yours for as long as you want them to be and no one can take them away from you.
What he was to you doesn't change. Trystan will always be a son, brother and friend. Why would that be any different because you can't see him?
Be proud to have been part of his life. Be happy that he was here and that you were able to be part of his life. Be glad that he was part of yours.
Remember him with fondness and love for everything that he has brought to your lives.
Physically he's gone but his spirit will live on with every one of you. He will stay in your hearts and minds and be with you wherever you go.

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A day we should be celebrating but sadly we cannot x Remembering you as always son x

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Trystan,

I cannot believe it has been this long. I miss you so so much. I wish you could have seen me get married and move out to Japan. I wish you could've seen my achievements and I wish I could've seen yours. You were one of the good ones. I still talk about you to this day. And I still listen to J Cole. Every time I hear him I think of you.
I still kick myself when I think of the last time we text. I was supposed to see you after work so we could go to the cinema. I had got off work early, but I just wanted to go home and go to bed. I text you saying "I'm sorry I really wanna go home, we can hang out another time." Your response "ah I understand ChaCha just wanted to see a friendly face tonight I needed it". I ask myself every time I think about it - why oh why did I not just stay out a little longer. I know it wouldn't have changed anything but just to see you one last time. But I will forever make sure if someone says something like this to me I will never let them down like I did you. I am forever sorry I wasn't there for you.
I wish you were here. I wish I could just call you and tell you all about how far I've come in life. You would always mock me for my choice in guys. Always had the best advice. We always laughed. Always joked. You were one of the kindest, most generous person I ever met. To this day. You didn't deserve the pain you had inside. You were so brave. You were able to put on a brave, happy face and act like nothing was happening. All the while you were fighting this by yourself.

You would scare the heck out of me when you would drive so crazy. I remember you putting cruise control on and you put your feet up on the seat!!! And when you would handbrake turn the corners up to my house. You were crazy!! But I always felt safe with you.
I am forever grateful for everything you did for me. You would pick me up and take me to the cinema randomly on a Sunday night. You would pick me up from anywhere really and made sure I got home safe. So many happy memories with you. I can't believe it's been 6 years. I will tell my kids about you. About their uncle Trizzy.

You are missed by so many. Every time I hear this song I hope you hear me when I say love you trystan!

"Cause I can feel my grip loosening, quick, do something before you lose it for good, get it back and use it for good, and touch them people how you did like before, I'm tired of living with demons cause they always inviting more - Love Yourz"

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  • Hi Cha Cha that was beautiful x Trystan would be so proud of you and what you achieved, so happy you got married and moved to Japan. He should have been there on your special day. Hardly a day goes by without feeling an overwhelming sadness that is so difficult to bear. I have to think of something else or it becomes too much. Trystan is still missed so much by us all. Take care x

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  • Beautiful words darling xxx

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Today was the day we said goodbye x So much heartfelt pain it was so difficult to endure x We will never understand why x

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You didn't get to meet your nephew Harvey. He has brought so much joy into our lives where there was so much sadness and pain.

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  • Another Christmas without our Son x Those no longer with us are In our thoughts x

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I miss you so very much my darling boy xxx

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