With fond memories of a Strong stoic Grandad/Dad who has fought against numerous Cancers over the years.....unfortunately in the end you couldn't beat this terrible disease.......forever in our hearts.....Mandy Ian Amelia and Elliot xxxx
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In loving memory of Brian Lumley who sadly passed away on 2nd December 2020.......copy of Eulogy.....Brian was born in 1938 in Middlesborough and lived in a little Railway Cottage in Nunthorpe, his Dad, Ernest was a railway signalman. His Sister Joyce was born in 1945, so the family joke was; there will always be a war between them!
His Mum , Tessie, was from a religious family, so every Sunday the family went to Nunthorpe Methodist Church. Little did he know at the time, the church organist would become his father-in-law!
His passion for travel started at a young age thanks to his Dad’s work from which they had free family passes which allowed them to visit various places in England including the yearly visit with his Dad to Scarborough to watch the cricket, no doubt his passion for this sport began here. His father would take him to the football matches to watch the Boro…..the team he supported for all of his life. Brian did well at school, he passed the 11+and went to Guisborough Grammar School where he did very well
Brian’s love for cars goes back to one of his early cars, a Ford. When he wanted to sell his little Ford his Sister and a neighbour accidently put it in reverse gear and shot back into the house wall and damaged a back wing! When Brian came home from work, Joyce told him about the unfortunate accident, when someone came to buy the car he knocked £15 off the price and made sure Michael and Joyce paid £7.50 each out of their pocket money! So right from a young age he was watching his pennies!
Brian began courting Judith in his early twenties , at that time he was studying to be a Quantity Surveyor he was determined to be qualified before getting married and in true Brian style that’s what he did – he qualified on 24 January 1964 and got married 21 March the same year. Brian first met Al his bestfriend in 1960 when Brian joined the quantity surveying section of the North Riding of Yorkshire architect’s department, Judith and AL’s wife Angela became very close friends. Al was envious when Brian bought an MG sports car. Whilst out with Al in Newcastle having pre drinks at the Bourgoynes pub prior to a football match in 1967 he met Ron who was also to become a lifelong friend. Judith and Brian bought a house in Elm Drive Marton where his daughters Mandy and Susanne were born in 1968 and 1971.
In the next 14 years Brian and his family moved several times from Linlithgow in Scotland to Aycliffe to Truro in Cornwall due to changes in Brian’s job. During these years he continued to play golf, squash and cricket while following his passion for jazz and going to see musicals with Judith. Thanks to his social nature he made a lot of friends every where he lived.
Despite Brian being a real sportsman there was one sport he never mastered – swimming. Judith tried to teach him, as did Al and even his grandchildren in France but he was only swimming in one direction – to the bottom of the pool!
Gradually from 1999 – 2008 his Grand children started to appear into the world. What an amazing Grandad he was.
Unfortunately, he became unwell and in 2004 had his quadruple heart bi-pass operation in London which Judith supported him through but there was no stopping Brian he was soon back on the golf course. Then Judith herself became unwell and sadly passed away from non-hodgekins lymphoma in 2008.
Following Judith’s death he made the decision to move to Verwood, where he enjoyed his life continuing his love of family, holidays and sport. He enjoyed going to watch Bournemouth and also the cricket with his friend David from Cornwall. Once again he made many new friends including his neighbours Bill, Wendy and Barry as well as his Jazz friends.
He also met his ‘lady friend Joan’ from Dublin who has been his companion for 8 years…they have had many memorable trips to Portugal and more recently a cruise in January this year….throughout Covid she has continuously supported him.
During the last two years Brian has battled against lung cancer and has always tried to be positive and strong… during his last year of life still managed to created some lovely memories despite the challenges of Covid with his sense of humour shining through. Brian’s heart stopped beating on 2nd December but our memories of the times we had with him will stay with us forever.