Sylvia Whelan "Brenda" (23 Dec 1945 - 14 Jun 2020)

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South West Middlesex Crematorium 355 Hounslow Road Feltham TW13 5JH
Date
25th Jun 2020
Time
11.20am
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In loving memory of Sylvia Brenda Whelan who passed away peacefully at home on 14th June 2020.

Brenda was born on the 23rd December 1945 in West London. Although her first name was actually Sylvia, she was always known to her family and friends by her middle name, Brenda. Together with her older sister Patricia, and her parents Jessie and Cecil Young, she lived throughout the 1940’s and 1950’s in Bryony Road in London W12. The family moved to South Ockendon, Essex in the early 1960’s. Brenda completed her schooling at Burlington Girls Grammar School in Wood Lane in 1962 and then attended Grays College in Essex on a secretarial/commercial diploma course. This led on to her first job as a shorthand secretary in a Jute Importing Company, in the City of London.

Brenda met Paul Whelan in 1962 and they married on the 1st May 1965. By June 1969, the Whelan family had expanded to 5, with Lee arriving in 1965 (West Ealing), Ian in 1967 (Greenford) and finally Adam in 1969 (Berinsfield-Oxfordshire). Shortly after Adam’s arrival, Brenda and family moved to Poole in Dorset. This was followed by moves to Chertsey in 1974 and then Lower Sunbury in 1977. Much to Brenda’s relief, she remained rooted in Sunbury for the next 42 years before her final move to her bungalow in Weybridge in September 2019.

Brenda had a remarkable capacity to bring laughter and joy to her extensive family and wide circle of friends. There were never any awkward silences when Brenda was in the room. Her signature colour was purple and you could guarantee that her outfits and accessories would always be perfectly coordinated. Brenda’s primary sporting interest was watching tennis and she looked forward to her annual ‘Wimbledon’ feast. Brenda’s particular pleasure was her many visits to the health spa, Henlow Grange, with her best friend Chris Elliott. Chris was Brenda’s next door neighbour in Chertsey. They first met the eventual owner of Henlow Grange, Mrs Purdew, whilst attending her diet & slimming club. Brenda and Chris shared many happy memories as ‘Special Guests’ at Henlow Grange, and become personal friends of Mrs ‘P’. Brenda also created many happy memories sharing holidays with all her sons and extended family and friends.

Brenda had so many special friends there are far too many to list here. However, they will know who they are. Special mentions go to her oldest school friend Pam Woodvine (nee Payne), Cath Whelan, Steve Fuller and Franco. She will also be especially missed by her sister Patricia & brother-in-law Ivor, grandchildren Toby, Miles, Harvey, Holly and Rafferty, her daughter-in-laws Penny and Felicity, her extended ‘in-laws’ Maureen & John, Ann, Julia, Michael & Lucy, Pat & Carol, the multitude of nephews, nieces, cousins and extended family, her friends and work colleagues through her long association with Lee’s business enterprise ‘Acuity Solutions’ and all her many other friends and neighbours.

However sad we all are at her passing, we are also relieved that she is now resting, in peace, after a four year period of illness with cancer. Her family are grateful to the Hospitals, Woking Hospice and especially the Sam Beare Palliative Care Team who supported her throughout her illness.

Brenda, you will be sadly missed ... forever ... but now you can finally ... Rest In Peace ❤️

Penelope Whelan wrote

We miss you every day.
Hope you are looking down on us with pride

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michael whelan wrote

Dear Brenda
Remembering you with great fondness and many happy memories of family get togethers. Rest in peace.
Much love,
Michael, Lucy, Michael Eamon, Liam, Donna and extended families

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Dear Brenda
Yet another year slips by (Third) and the memories from the early 1960's through to 2020 are as a fresh today despite your absence. Rest Easy as the memories linger on.
Love
Paul X

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Franco Mosca wrote

Always thinking of you.

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Paul Whelan wrote

Dear Brenda
2 Years have passed and the loving memories linger on.
You are sorely missed now and forever.
Love and so many happy memories …
Paul x

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Christine Elliott wrote

2 years have gone my best friend, and I still miss you.the world is a worse place sense losing you, but a better place for you being here,I will never forget you,
R I P my best friend, love you.

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Paul Whelan wrote

Brenda
One Year has slipped by and though you have left us, you will never be forgotten by me and your extensive family, friends, neighbours and work colleagues. Thanks for all the happiness and laughter you shared with us and now continue to REST IN PEACE
Much Love
Paul x

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Tracey Giles wrote

A year today,
My memory loves you; it asks about you all the time

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Christine Elliott wrote

Brenda my friend,
Tomorrow it will be a year to the day we lost you, I miss you every day and still don’t understand why you where taken from us, I see things all the time that reminds of you and I do smile 😊 just like we use to laugh all the time at things, I hope where ever you are you are looking down and smiling with me,
God bless, your friend Chris xx

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Missing you, Brenda!

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Julie Hanham donated in memory of Sylvia

Such sad news, but many happy memories for times spent in The Pines with Brenda.
Chatting in the kitchen., slimming clubs, keep fit classes & of course walking in Sunbury Park with Rags..
Condolences to all the family.
Love from Julie, Richard, Nicola & David

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Nicola Gardner donated £30 in memory of Sylvia

Such fond memories of The Pines and lovely Brenda always smiling, thinking of you all, Lee and Family. Lots of Love Nicola xx

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Madeleine Markham donated £20 in memory of Sylvia

Brenda I will miss you more than words can say, you were such a brave person your courage was second to none. A privilege to have been in your company with the many laughs we had together with Susan and Terrie. 🌺

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Paul Whelan wrote

Brenda
Forever in my thoughts
R.I.P.
Paul

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  • Brenda my best friend I’m going to miss you so much, has you know we are like Thelma and Louise ,the memories of us with remain in my heart for ever, thank you for 45 years of fun and laughter,but most of all the friendship you gave me, R.I.P my lovely. Your friend for ever Chris xxx

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