Rosemary Cutler (27 Aug 1937 - 21 Apr 2020)

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Location
Surrey & Sussex Crematorium Balcombe Road Crawley RH10 3NQ
Date
15th May 2020
Time
3.45pm
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Rosemary Cutler, was born 27th August 1937, in Bournemouth to Grace and Arthur Pitt and was the youngest of 5 children.

Since the age of 5, when they first started school, Rosemary had a best friend Celia, and they have kept in contact either by visits or letters until Rosemary’s passing – a truly special friendship which has stood such a long test of time.

After leaving school, she worked as a clothing sales assistant and showed her love of learning and the desire to improve herself by studying short-hand and typing in the evenings.

Rosemary met Brian Cutler at a dance in Bournemouth. They hit it off immediately and were married on 23rd March 1957. This was also the same date as their good friends Barbara and Doug. Rosemary and Brian were very proud to receive a message of congratulations from the Queen for their Diamond wedding anniversary in 2017.

Rosemary and Brian first lived in a rented apartment in Lewisham, London, where Brian was working for the Crown Agents. But after a falling out with the landlady, who was upset that Brian married Rosemary and not her daughter, and also the arrival of their first child, Sandra in July 1958, Brian decided to join the police force and was stationed in Camberley

The second child, Linda, arrived in 1960 and the 3rd child, David in 1962.

In 1964, Brian was stationed in Reigate and hence the family moved to Reigate. The family then added an additional member – the Jack Russel dog Pip – who was often the naughtiest family member loving games with Rosemary such as “see if you can get this sock from me” and “I’ve jumped over the fence again, see if you can catch me”!

While the children were growing up the family moved several times: lastly to Carlton Road, Redhill where Rosemary lived for around 45 years until her passing. During that time, there have been several changes of neighbours, many of whom have still kept in touch such as her good friend Antonia.

During this time Rosemary worked part time as a secretary for the Crusader Insurance and later the Reigate Education Office where she met her good friends Diane and “the other Sandra” (not to be confused with Rosemary’s daughter Sandra).

Rosemary went into pension early in order to be able to spend more time with her grandchildren. The 1st, Hannah was born in 1991, followed by Adam, Lauren, Chloe and Abbie in 2004; her great grandchild, Chloe, was born in 2012.

Rosemary always had a love of life and a zest for trying new things and this resulted in an impressive number of hobbies and pastimes:
• As a child and adult, Rosemary had always enjoyed reading novels and poetry.
• As a mother and housewife, Rosemary enjoyed many handicrafts and cookery - she won a prize at the Women’s Institute for the best fruit cake and her trifle was always in demand at every family do!
• And, as her children grew older and more independent, she loved to travel and walk in nature and, together with Brian, holidayed all over UK, Europe and North America.

Rosemary also met many friends and acquaintances through her hobbies namely:
• The chi kung ladies – Daphne, Eileen, Janet, Judy, Roz, Ursula and Viv - who would later meet regularly for coffee mornings and afternoon teas
• Her German pen friends: Christina and Manfred, Erika, and Elly.
• As well as the early morning swimming sessions at Donyngs where she would meet several of the neighbours including Norman and Eda

But Rosemary’s favourite pastime was always a get-together with family and friends and was especially pleased when her brother Art, together with his daughter Julia and her husband Frank came up from Bournemouth last year.

To her friends, Rosemary was a lovely, gentle, kind, dignified, funny soul who in all the adversity of illness showed her strength of character and bore her troubles stoically.

To her family, Rosemary will always be remembered as a loving Wife, Mum, Grandmother, Great Grandmother, always there for her family, nursing us through sickness, caring for us in health and ready to support and encourage us in our times of need. She will be dearly missed and we will cherish all the happy times we have had together.

Before Rosemary departed, she said:
“You must not be upset:
I’ve had a good life,
I’ve had a long life,
Brian has been a good husband and father,
the children have been good and no trouble,
I’ve had a good innings and no regrets,
And now it’s time go.
I hope you all live long and happy lives”.

Goodbye Rosie, Mum, Nana, Gran, Great Nana, Rosemary, little sister,
May your soul rest in peace.
We will love and cherish your memory forever.

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Sandra Cutler wrote

A mother is one who can take the place of all others, but whose place no one else can take.
RIP Mum. Love you forever. X

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Brian & Rosie - Birthday gettogether at Tilgate  Park, Crawley - May 2010.

Brian & Rosie - Birthday gettogether at Tilgate Park, Crawley - May 2010.

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Mahmoud El-Hariri donated in memory of Rosemary

Rosie
We are united in grief for the loss a dear and remarkable grandma. She was a true diamond; our memories of her extraordinary kindness will stay with us for as long as we live.
May she, rest in peace and to the journey thereafter.

Mahmoud

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Diana Knight donated £10 in memory of Rosemary

In memory of a lovely lady,

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Hannah Rehman wrote

The best nana & great nana. I will always remember the cooking we did together, the swimming trips, going to the park, feeding the ducks, the never ending games of snap & the amazing cakes and trifle you would make. You will truly be missed ❤️

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From Frances and David in memory of Rosemary.

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Order of Service

Music on Entry - Ave Maria, Sarah Brightman

“I am the resurrection and the life; those who believe in me,
even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and
believes in me shall never die”. John Ch 11.

Introduction and Opening Prayers - Rev Mick Hough

23rd Psalm - Rev Mick Hough

Tribute by Arthur - Read by Dave

Poem (She is Gone) - Read by Chloe

Song (Fields of Gold) - Sung by Hannah

Tribute to Rosemary - Read by Rev Mick Hough

Bible Reading: John 14:1-7,27

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Prayers

Lord’s Prayer
Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
the power and the glory, now and forever.
Amen.

Prayer of Commendation

Rosemary’s Goodbye

Prayer of Committal

Nocturne in E-Flat Major, Op.9 No.2 Chopin

The Blessing

Music on Exit - Time to say goodbye, Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman

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Sandra Cutler wrote

Tribute from Rosemary’s brother Arthur

Rosemary was the youngest of 5 children and is survived by her brother Art, who will be celebrating his 94th birthday in June.

This is Uncle Art's tribute to his little sister.
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Rosemary being the baby of the family and myself second in the family of five children, Jim, Arthur, Dorothy, Gordon and then little Rosemary. There was a difference of nearly 11 years between Rosemary and myself, Arthur.

There is one memory of when I was in the army stationed in Egypt in 1946, I sent a little bag back to England for Rosemary and she still remembered and mentioned the story last year. It was a special bag to her from her big brother and how she treasured wearing it. Especially when I came home, she was waiting with father at Bournemouth train station proudly showing off her special bag!

I have very fond memories of her growing up especially friendship. We had a Irish setter dog and this dog would go up to the school gates and wait until Rosemary came out of school and wouldn’t budge until they went home together. One day she came out of a different exit door and off she went home, without the dog, mother told her to go back to school straight away as the dog was still waiting at the usual door for her to appear! She did and there she was waiting for her and they walked home together.

I also remember when she was very ill as a child, although in those days our parents didn’t talk about the illness but I remember them having to move her bed into the front room, where she stayed for quite some time. It was touch and go, but like a trooper she pulled through.

I can also remember her loving to dance as she danced around the house in Murley Road. She met Brian down in Bournemouth town square while he was stationed in the area. They were married at Winton Methodist Church in Alma Road, Bournemouth and then moved away to live in London. Like all families we kept in touch through birthday and Christmas cards, but we finally met up again last year, which was very special to me, I’m sorry I couldn’t see her as I lost my sight a few years ago but meeting up again was truly special to us all.

Goodbye my little sister, go and play with the others now

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Celia Harrison donated in memory of Rosemary

My daughter, Rachel, and I just want you to know that we are thinking of you all at this sad time. My memories of dear "Rosie" commenced when we both were 5 and started school at the local infant's school!! She became such a lovely lady and true friend whose friendship I valued greatly. Ì will truly miss her. CELIA AND RACHEL. Revelation chap. 21 verses 3, 4, and 5

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In loving memory of dear Rosie, our neighbour for 25 happy years. She did share some laughs and some sorrows; always there with a smile and a warm welcome to us and assorted children and dogs. We missed you when we moved away and were so glad when you & Brian came to see us in our new home. We will miss you very much and the world is a little less joyous without you. Rest In Peace.

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