Arthur Charles Ballard (27 Oct 1927 - 28 Mar 2020)

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In loving memory of Arthur Charles Ballard who sadly passed away on 28th March 2020, aged 92 years.

Arthur Charles Ballard was born in Mitcham, Surrey on 27 October 1927, the only son of Albert and Lillian. During his life time he was married twice, first to Philomena Hart who sadly died when we were children, and June Wastell who was with us for 40+ years before her passing in 2015. Dad had four children, Anne, Adrian, Alison and Andrew, plus two step-children from his marriage to June, namely Monica and Trevor. He had 13 grandchildren, 4 step grandchildren, 6 great grand children and 4 step great grandchildren!
Dad had a large extended family and his children grew up surrounded by uncles, aunts and cousins, whom he loved. We were never left wanting for company or entertainment.

Dad loved bright colours but was colour blind so they often clashed. His favourite colour was red. He loved flashy shirts with purple and pink flowers. He was always smartly dressed and was a proud man and always took time over his appearance often wearing ties, jackets, waistcoats, smart trousers, hats and a bright coloured shirt. He was extremely polite and respectful to women.

Dad loved 'tinkering' with things, taking them apart to see how they worked and didn't always succeed in putting them back together. This love of engineering led to him joining the Army at the tail end of the Second World War, when he served with the REME , based in Cyprus.

Dad kept himself busy over the years and had several hobbies in life:
He liked to play darts and snooker, and loved his grass bowls, he was Vice President of the Bethlem Royal Hospital Bowling Club in Beckenham as well as Captain of the men’s bowling team; a hobby he enjoyed with June. He loved sport and played many in his younger days.

Dad loved gardening – he used to grow his own vegetables, fruits and flowers and would spend hours pottering in the garden. His plum tree was a delight!

Dad loved music and frequently listened to the radio. Weekends would be spent listening to the radio playing classic comedies such as "The Goon Show" or "Round The Horne" and others. He particularly liked Sinatra and could often be heard singing along. He had a prized collection of '78s' full of records from the 'old crooners' and he knew the lyrics to most of the songs of his day. As a child his father's friends would make him stand on a table in the middle of the local pub and sing them a song. Dad always liked to sing and joined a choir in his late 80’s with Alison which was run by his granddaughter Nicole. When his dementia was particularly bad, singing to him and with him would settle and calm him. One of his last requests was for his children to sing to him.

Most of all he loved nothing more than spending time with his family, especially if it involved a meal out or a trip to the garden centre always accompanied by coffee and cake.

Dad loved to socialise and had many friends from vastly different backgrounds and loved them all.

As a child he was full of mischief and he often reminisced about the past and the pranks he used to perform with his two best friends, Charlie and Harold.

Although he could be strict, he was always fair (even if we didn't think so at the time) and he taught us strong values and morals that have seen us overcome many trials and tribulations.

In his final years, dad was afflicted with dementia, but he still managed a smile and a song with family and friends. His time at Pemberley House was very enjoyable for dad. He had been struggling at home and he found the comfort of others a big help. The staff there were exceptional and when we were unable to care and look after our father they took our place treating him with the love, kindness and dignity that this great man deserved.

We would love you to share the day and your memories with us, but sadly, due to current restrictions, it will be a closed christian service, with just his children present. But we have arranged for the service to be filmed and it will be broadcast live via the internet.

Please send us your memories/photographs/poems, etc and we will publish as many as we can. Just follow the links and instructions, thank you.

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Christmastime

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Meeting a grandchild

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Retro vibes at Ade & Sue's wedding, Abingdon

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Dance break on Ilfracoombe holiday

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Some of my memories of Grandad
-He was always partial to having cake in the Pemberley coffee area
-We visited him on Christmas day in Pemberley, my Dad said "it's Christmas day, Dad", Grandad replied "No it's not!"
-He was always up for a dance or sing song at family parties
-When I told him I was going to be studying Sociology at uni, he said that's something he would have liked to study had he not needed to go into work straight away (whether that's true or not, I don't know but it was sweet of him to say)

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  • I think it probably was true, he was a dyslexic with little access to education but he was a very intelligent man 😁

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Family fun at The Fox Christmas 2015

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Rest in peace Dad x

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Hannah Ballard wrote

Some of my favourite memories with Grandad:
- when we were little, Grandad would give us mille-feuilles because he found watching us trying to eat them without getting cream all over our faces absolutely hilarious
- I brought Grandad an asian conical hat from my SE Asia backpacking trip to wear when he was in the garden, and he thought it was hilariously big.
- We would often talk about London things at family gatherings, and Grandad loved to tell me all about the dentist he visited... whose offices was located in a block full of brothels!
- Sammy and I drove Grandad to the Towers (possibly after we had just seen Grandma at hospital?). As the car was pretty low down, I asked Grandad if he needed a hand out. "Absolutely not!"
- Not only did Grandad notice that I was upset the first time I saw him in Pemberley, he was concerned and patted my arm.
- We sang along to the Do-Re-Mi song: me, Grandad, Ali & Dad. He smiled while we were singing.
- Sat in his room last April, I was telling him that I was about to move to Canada. He was listening and nodding, then just began giggling and pointed at his drawer marked 'socks.' He looked straight at me: "Look, they've got socks for SOCKS!" and began laughing, which set me off. When Ali asked us what we were laughing about, we began laughing even harder. It took a good 5 minutes to explain.

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  • Lovely memories Hannah xx

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May 2017. I was back in the UK from Australia and got to see Grandad for coffee and cake.

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  • I love this photo ❤️

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Think it might be in France, sun shining and a pint in his hand

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Mark Potten wrote

A proud honour to have grandads collection of toy cars and that I can share them with my son Austin when he grows up and can appreciate them. I also look forward to adding to the collect with Austin as we go to car shows.

Grandad and I would take trips together down to the local toy store to get new cars for his collection. His favourite were the days of yesteryears collection. And then when I was older I would buy them for grandad for Christmas gifts.

I shall always remember those times fondly as well as the sage advice he would give me on those trips.

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  • He was so proud walking down to the model shop with you , he bought your 1st matchbox car there x

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Louise with Grandad when they went to see Monica , Jim & T . Think Nanny must have taken this 🥰🥰🥰

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Susan & Ray Lewis wrote

RIP Uncle Arthur ❤️

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RIP Uncle Arthur ❤️

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Sam Hill wrote

Arthur is the most wonderful man I met , he was kind honest and considerate person I’ve met , we did laugh lots , one thing he always remember was my children and always asked how they were . We always sat and had a cuppa talking about the olden days and put the world to right which I always laughed about and still now and when June was about she always raised her eye , but one thing I knew he loved his family and friends very dearly and talked a lot about them . He will be sadly missed and I’m so sad I can’t be there to say my good byes but you will always be in my heart and never forgotten Arthur ❤️❤️love you Sam ❤️❤️

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  • Thank you Sam , lovely words x

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Ali Gill wrote

What can I say dad other than you were the best! You used to call me Tinky. You would come in from work and shout Tinky! Come and rub my neck' and then you sat in the archair and I would tickle the back of your neck until you felt relaxed. When your dementia was bad I used to tickle your neck, it calmed you then too. We would sit and hold hands and the love between us was incredible. When the dementia took over and you became agitated I would hold your hands look into your eyes and sing. It wouldn't even be a proper song 'why are you so cross Mr Ballard, look at me and smile' I would sing, and you would reply 'I don't know laalala' and it worked every time and soon you would be laughing again. I remember museums, and walks and castles! A great a wonderful childhood. I remember so many trips to town or a garden centre, usually for non essential things but you needed them NOW! Dad I would give anything for just one more pointless trip out with you, to hold your hands once more, to tickle the back of your neck and to tell you I love you. Always in my heart 💓 xx

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Anne Potten wrote

So many happy memories, waiting for the Greenline bus in Streatham either to go out to the countryside or up to London for the day. Our picnics in our bags, if it was a country walk he often got us lost, it was always just over the next hill ! In London we walked for hours revisiting St Paul's, Houses of Parliament, Trafalgar Square etc etc . Sitting quietly waiting for him to finish his newspaper after work so that we could tell him about our day. His gardening tips when George & I 1st moved & knew nothing about the garden. Visits to stately homes , he always had a story about something there. Caravan holidays when again we walked for miles , mushrooming early in the morning to gather mushrooms for breakfast. Most of all his love of music , singing and his family including extended family & life in general. A huge hole in my heart but filled with love for all you have given us. Anne xxxxxx

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Taken on one of Georgies visits to Pemberley with me, he then drew the picture on the right earlier this year, that will be a treasured memory always

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Isle of Wight with Mark , Mark is now the proud keeper of dads car collection x

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  • I shall cherish those cars and share stories with Austin when he grows up.

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Proud Army man

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In loving memory of the best dad, you certainly did it Your Way & we love for that Anne & George xxx

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Jim Lauder wrote

i met Arthur when I married his stepdaughter, Monica.Arthur, Fred Hughes and Trevor took me out for my bachelor night the night before my wedding. I thought I was quite a drinker but could not keep up. The problem was the 1st one finished with his pint would buy another round. i cannot remember how many pints I had in front of me by the end of the night. I was a little under the weather when I woke up so Arthur fixed me a "hair of the dog" Not sure if it helped.
Arthur and June would come to visit us in Norway, Singapore, USA, and Brazil. They were always a big hit with our friends. At night when others had retired we would sit around ans sort out all the worlds problems. Sorry to say the next day the would reappear. We would keep trying. We talked a lot of football I was a Liverpool supporter and he was not.
Arthur and June came to help us while we had our son, Terence. We were lost. They were the rocks we relied upon. I was there when Arthur won his 1st trophy. He was so happy. We would come through at least once a year to spend some time with them. They came to Brazil to helpm out when Monica got sick. It was such a comfort having them there sitting on the deck looking up at "The Guy on the Hill".
I shall miss our walks, talks and having a wee Dram. I have toasted you once Arthur. I shall do this again when i can be with the rest of the family! Love Always

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  • Lovely memories to have Jim

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alanmaur45@ahoo.co.uk Hook wrote

From Cousins Eileen Carby and Maureen Hook.
Eileen and I do not have many memories of Arthur as he got older, but we do have memories of when he was younger.
I remember when he got married to Phyllis, I was only 6 years old and it was New Years Eve and very cold and as Arthur changed his religion the ceremony was 2 hours long and churches didn’t have very good heating systems in those days. Then we went on to a party at his Mum and Dads.
Eileen was only 6 months younger than Arthur And their Mums used to take them out in their prams together. She also remembers seeing him at dances at the Majestic Mitcham and the Swimming Baths Mitcham, Arthur was in his Army uniform.

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George Potten wrote

Remember the days playing snooker in Croydon, sitting up all night watching Olympics, World Cup or other sports with our plates of sandwiches & flasks of tea & coffee. Maybe the odd beer or two as well. The big man with a wonderful soul & although he sadly was losing his mind he never lost that soul. RIP Arthur the best father in law , friend & gardening advisor I ever knew XX

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Enjoying the summer at Pemberley House

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