Joanne Smith (26 Jan 1963 - 17 Jul 2014)

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Location
Easthampstead Park Crematorium South Road, Nine Mile Ride Wokingham RG40 3DW
Date
1st Aug 2014
Time
1.30pm

In loving memory of my beautiful wife Joanne who very sadly passed away on 17th July 2014. Joanne was taken from us suddenly after suffering a massive brain bleed. Joanne also leaves her two daughters Alice & Emily. We miss her so much.


Tribute (read by husband Michael at Joannes service)
Joanne was born 26th January 1963 to Frank and Dorothy Mandel, the youngest of six. Frank passed on many years ago but Dorothy is still very much with us.

Joanne has four brothers and a sister:
Raymond, Ronald, Chris, Paul & Linda

A shy girl, who went to school at Norwood Green Infants and Junior and then onto Hounslow Manor secondary modern.

Joanne worked at Tudor Glass, Brentchem and Pandair which later became AEI, the latter as PA to a senior manager.

In 1977 Joanne was unfortunate enough to meet a Gangly, greasy hair yob called Michael.

Eventually we bought our first house and decided to marry. There wasn’t much of a proposal the subject was was just slipped into a conversation “I suppose we should get married then?”. I was working for an airline and Joanne always said she only married me to get cheap flights.

25th May 1985, we were married at Hounslow Registry office she was so beautiful. Joanne always said that I married the registrar because I never looked at her once during the service.

12th October 1990, Alice was born. Three years later on 22nd February 1993 saw the arrival of Emily. Joanne and I decided that she would be a “stay at home” mum and spend as much time as possible with our children. Joanne was a wonderful mother, she devoted so much time to the well being of our beautiful daughters who have become as kind hearted as their mother (sometimes).

Throughout her life Joanne loved to travel, she even found a drive to the airport exciting as it reminded her of going on holiday. As a family we have visited many places and had such great experiences and adventures but Jo’s favorite place in the world is North America. Wherever she is in the world Jo has to sleep with a window open complaining to me that it’s too stuffy to sleep with it closed. On a holiday in the USA, Death Valley, the temperature was about 130 degrees during the day, at night is was impossible to open a window because it was just too hot, Joanne was overwhelmed with the heat and spent the night sitting on a chair in front of the AC unit.

Joanne was always doing something with the girls, from coffee mornings to playgroups and swim clubs at school. Both girls went to the local community pre-school, where Jo was eventually employed and after a period took the role of Hall supervisor. Recently Joanne began doing much of the administration of the pre-school and in September she was supposed to be taking over a new role in the pre-school as operations manager which would have seen her take over all of the “day to day” functions that would normally be done by the committee. Children were Joanne’s life.

Joanne loved to party, and her 50th Grease party was her crowning glory she arranged everything. Where possible she would plan Christmas & Birthdays. Firework parties were what she really loved. She was the glue that kept us all together, the family social secretary.

Joanne’s hobbies were her family and her activities were more focused on what everyone else in the family was doing rather than what she wanted. Joanne was active in cycling, climbing and all kinds of keep activities fit at the gym. Joanne was also a skier which we started quite late in life. Jo became quite a confident skier but would always know her limits. It makes us all laugh to hear her squealing with fear when those limits are reached. Joanne also loved to bake and decorate cakes, both of my sisters wedding cakes were made by Joanne. She was also talented at arts and crafts and would lend her hand to almost anything. Her Rainbow fish made for her recent course work was pretty good.

Joanne loved a bargain, and would always wait until buying something just incase it came on sale. Inevitably she did not buy what she wanted as it would sell out of her size. Today would for sure have been done on a much tighter budget.

For the past two years Joanne was studying for an Arts Foundation Degree in Education. This Foundation Degree Early Years was at Brooklands College and Kingston University. We are very proud that Joanne was awarded a Merit for a level 4 & 5 qualification, a result that she sadly, never got to hear.

Joanne’s sudden passing was for sure a massive shock, to be told that there is nothing that could be done for Joanne was unbelievable. However from this awful nightmare Emily and I were fortunate enough to spend some time with Jo whilst we waited for Alice to arrive from Canada. The girls could lie with Jo and give her massive cuddles, we made handprints, took locks of hair and helped the nursing staff to care for Jo. We are sure that this time has helped us to cope as we had plenty of time to say our goodbyes.

We decided as a family that Jo would become an Organ Donor. It gives us great comfort that Jo is helping to keep other families loved ones to live better lives through Organ Donation. So far she has helped four people. A Liver (to a person that would have died without it) her Pancreas to another and her Kidneys went to two people. We tried to get them to take her much-hated BUNIONs but they just could not find a recipient.

Jo was a wonderful happy person that had time for everybody, the one thing that I am going to miss is her smile. Getting up in the morning or coming home from work, what I really looked forward to was to enter the room and see that lovely smile. I am so fortunate to have been part of Joanne’s short life.

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Susan Matheson donated in memory of Joanne

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Susan Matheson wrote

All the Mathesons both here and in Canada offer our sincere condolences to all Joanne's family.Such a sad loss for you all

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HSPS donated £40 in memory of Joanne

Sadly missed at our afternoon tea Jo but dipped into our purses for your charity xxxxxx

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Gwen wrote

In memory of Joanne a very warm and loving person. Who is greatly missed

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gloria wrote

Didn't know Jo very well but whenever we met she was always warm and friendly. A tragic loss

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MUM & LINDA Mandel wrote

IN MEMORY OF OUR DEAR JOANNE

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Dorothy donated £200 in memory of Joanne
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Christine Matheson-Studley wrote

I was so saddened to hear of your loss, Michael. We haven't seen each other for so many years but know that you're in my thoughts. May the strength of family and friends provide you with much comfort.

Your cousin, Christine

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Alice’s Tribute

I can say with great confidence that mum loved three things: her family, cats and the colour purple. Mum always wore the colour purple and her favourite flower was a purple hydrangea. If something were a shade of purple mum would buy it right away, however if it were a different colour she would need to go away and think about it for a week and come back to it. I think the love for cats is a genetic condition because my grandma loves cats, my auntie Linda loves cats and so do me and Emily. I’m sure this will be passed on for many more generations.
My mum loved to celebrate everything as a family. Every year mum would wait until both Emily and I were back from university before she would buy and decorate a Christmas tree. One year the decorations were only allowed to be silver and purple. She even planned the summer holiday this year so that the family would come out to Canada to meet me so that we could share the experience together; and obviously because mum couldn’t bear to spend three months without me. Everything mum did was family orientated and she is the reason we are as close a family as we are today. We have so many amazing memories as a family, and have had so many adventures all over the world. I would be here for years trying to tell you about how much fun we’ve had together.

My mum was the most caring person I know. When Emily suffered scalds to her legs, mum was by her side the entire time she was in hospital. And never left Emily’s side for the months of recovery that she had to spend at home. When I broke my little finger during my first year at university, mum came down for the surgery and stayed with me for a whole week, even though it wasn’t necessary. She always put us first and I’m so grateful to have had a mum as compassionate and as selfless as Joanne.

Mum was our number one fan, even if she was terrified that we’d hurt ourselves because Emily and me seem to only like extreme sports. But she still came to support us, whether it was watching us from the top of the cliff edge when we went rock climbing, or even attempting to mountain bike with us. She came to as many of my rugby games as she could, and was probably more excited to watch both me and my sister play in the same team together. She would attempt to take pictures of us but they would usually turn out blurry because she got too excited. When mum came to watch me play the rugby varsity at Plymouth she made a T-shirt saying “Agro’s Mum” on it; a nickname I earned through rugby. And when I went to Kings College London, mum came to every game possible and she even became our unofficial team sponsor as she bought us a water bottle carrier and first aid kits. The Kings girls remember my mum fondly because she always brought us cakes or doughnuts for after games and the girls would say: “why is your mum so much nicer than you?”

For some reason I always played much better when my mum was watching. Although she was terrified that I’d get hurt, always squealing on the sidelines when I got tackled, it was comforting to know she was there. And while it doesn’t seem like much, knowing that she was always there to support and encourage me was incredible.

The girls at Kings College London have always referred to my mum as an honorary member. I’m happy to say that the rugby team have named an award after my mum, to be presented at the alumni games, to the player showing dedication, selflessness and adversity. I think mum would be honoured by this tribute, not only because these are the qualities that describe my mum perfectly, but to also know that her small contribution to the team made a big impact.

I can say without a doubt that Emily’s successes and mine have been due to my mums never ending support and compassion. I know that mum is proud of me because she was so excited to celebrate my graduations and made each of them special. I know that she would’ve done the same for Emily had she gotten the chance. And it saddens me that we will not be able to make my mums graduation special for her because she deserves it. I can’t even contemplate all the special occasions that are yet to come that mum will not get to celebrate.

I have had an amazing life filled with fun and incredible adventures and that is all down to my mum. Mum, you will be forever missed and loved always.

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Rebecca wrote

Such a kind, lovely lady x

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Parents of wrote

We are greatly saddened at the news of Jo passing and wish to send our heartfelt condolences to her family. Her long standing service and dedication to Heatherside Pre School was most appreciated and she will be sorely missed.

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Parents of Heatherside pre school donated £60 in memory of Joanne
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Michael Smith wrote

This donation was made on behalf of Linda Davenport, Eastbourne.

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Lesley wrote

Jo, you were so full of life, now our lives are a little emptier without you. This donation is from your friends who worked with you at pre-school, to hopefully help others in their lives xxxx

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