Funeral Flowers - Choosing The Right Bouquet For A Departed Loved One
Often the simplest things in life confuse and worry us, and flowers for funerals just happens to be one of those items.
Whether it’s a close friend that has passed away, Mum or Dad, brother or sister or a cousin, Aunty or Uncle, people try to put as much effort and thought into the flower ordering process. While nice it’s often unnecessary.
The friends and relatives might research how much they should spend on funeral flowers, try to figure out which variety of flower, bouquet or arrangement of flowers should be sent. Or if they should send flowers at all, a gift, or money to a charity.
Yet it comes down to one thing, being respectful and making the effort of sending your condolences no matter which form that takes.
Making a funeral pretty, pleasant and welcoming with Mother Nature’s best achievements is not only the concern of relations and friends of the bereaved. The next of Kin and family directly involved, whether that be the Wife or Husband, children, siblings or parents.
They too have to consider which floral arrangements to use at the Church, graveside, for the hearse, coffin topper or for a wake and memorial. If you consider everything there really could be a lot of flowers.
Not everyone finds appeal in flowers for funerals, they have a place but to smother such an event with such beauty could be deemed a little over the top. There are Sprays and Funeral Crosses, Sheaves and Funeral Wreaths that family members may have to create a pattern especially for their offering or a standard ensemble. It’s perhaps a good idea to be proportionate at every stage.
Which Flowers Are Appropriate For A Funeral?
If you are purchasing flowers from an online florist it is best to navigate to the funeral flowers section.
As all of the varieties will be the recommended variety for such a service.
Demand, popularity and tradition assures this. There are lists online that provide meaning for each species of flower according to their attraction and occasional use over the centuries.
Varieties that tend to resemble innocence, life and remembrance are Carnations, Roses, Lillies, Gladioli, Chrysanthemums, Daffodils and Tulips, Orchid and Hydrangea Plant.
These though have extensive symbolism which the receiver may understand a little about.
In Europe chrysanthemums are usually reserved for tributes to death, and in East Asia connected with grief.
Roses too are inescapable and while mostly presented with love, a single rose in an arrangement would send a message of eternal love to a Husband perhaps, a yellow rose for immensely strong affinity with a friend for more than thirty years and dark Crimson for sorrow from family or work colleagues.
There are specific arrangements tailored as babies funeral flowers too.
While a great many funerals people attend are for next of kin, Mums and Dads, Brothers and Sister funeral flowers, not all need to be connected so much with death.
An example would be a beautiful arrangement consisting of Daffodils and Tulips.
Remarkable colours, bright, speaking of grace and forgiveness. While it’s a bit soon to suggest a refreshing of life which these Spring flowers do, we all consider the next days and it could offer hope.
How Much Should I Spend On Funeral Flowers?
People do get concerned about whether they are spending enough when sending condolences. However it’s not a competition to send in the biggest arrangement or most flamboyant, at least not in British society.
There may be an instance where a family doesn’t want flowers at all and instead for the congregation to bring or send money, this may depends on the life values of Mum or Dad for instance.
Cash gifts are not meant for the bereaved, this is something especially reserved for a Widow but for a nominated charity. While flowers may end up at a hospital after use, charitable causes can also benefit from less money spent on the Netherland’s finest cuts.
Is There An Etiquette Concerning Funeral Flowers?
As with any funeral, when initially invited or you read the Death Announcement in the local newspaper or on a website, pay attention to any requests by the family. For example they may suggest a particular dress code, that a certain item or flower be worn or brought.
It’s sometimes suggested that family and friends pick from a list the flowers they may wish to be able to contribute. With a great many funeral plans, flowers for a funeral are not usually included.
While a person may have left a sum of money behind for additions, if you are sending flowers anyway why not to select from a pre written list?
Where Should I Send The Funeral Flowers?
Whether the funeral is for Nan and Granddad or Mum or Dad, close family will tend to know where their relatives live.
Extended family may not have updated their address books or contact details and friends from long ago who only kept in touch occasionally may also find it difficult knowing where the flowers should be sent to.
If you are organising the funeral and making announcements, make it clear where gifts or flowers should be despatched. An easier way is to ask for donations to be sent to a charity directly.
If flowers are not a particular concern. Flowers can be received by a Funeral Home, the place of Worship or can be delivered direct to your home or the deceased’s property, as that’s where you may be for the duration.
Consider however that if the deceased was well known that people may use any number of different florists, who may utilise a range of couriers. These deliveries could be non stop with early morning knocks.
Most couriers or flower delivery drivers know to simply leave flowers at the address in a safe place without disturbing anyone but as flowers need transporting on the day, consider the place where the ceremony takes place as the best target address and where you can select any number to dress a hearse or funeral cortège with the assistance of a funeral director or celebrant.
What Are The Different Types Of Flowers For A Funeral?
You wouldn’t think there could be that many different flower arrangements for a funeral that could be either sent as a relative or the person making the funeral arrangement, but there are.
There are many different aspects to a funeral, the coffin and top, the cortège, cars and hearse, the ceremonial hall, the memorial service, the wake, flowers that the congregation may like to wear or hold and for graveside. So too can the funerals be different in theme, a funeral for a Son or a Daughter may evoke different collages.
There are particular styles of funeral flower arrangement that are placed on top of a casket or coffin, particular colours fora Wife or a Husband. These are termed coffin tributes. Typically they are sprays which close family will arrange at the time of the funeral. Seeking out colours and varieties that fit with the general theme of the funeral.
Funeral posies are akin to a table centrepiece made from flowers. Circular in shape but with depth and the flowers all facing outwards and level across the top. They can be laid flat or tilted and allow for both floral and foliage to be mixed to provide a graceful dedication to a loved one and their family. Coming in several different sizes based on diameter. The general idea of a posy is that it can be viewed similarly from any angle.
When bouquets are purchased they are usually wrapped in transparent cellophane to cover and protect the flowers and to keep them moist. If however the funeral flowers are travelling direct to a funeral on the morning the flowers are arranged, they will remain fresh and so tying the stalks of the flowers, the stems alone is sufficient. A sheaf might be backed up at the rear with leafy foliage to protect when laid upon the ground. It’s an open ensemble with long stemmed flowers. A traditional tied sheaf.
These are especially for funerals and lay on top of the casket but don’t have to be used for that purpose. They come in two styles single ended with a tapered top and double ended, where stems are laid from both ends. Usually the flowers form a hilly heap in the middle.
Wreaths are common place from Remembrance Days to Memorials and are perfect floral presentations for a funeral. Typically circular with a hole in the middle. Though they can be formed in the shape of a heart too. Placed against walls, headstones or along the length of a coffin or casket within a hearse.
As the term suggests, these are religiously linked crosses usually reserved for Christians and Catholics although anyone can choose the shape. To be chosen more formally by the people arranging the funeral, though those wishing to send condolences can feel free to contribute a funeral cross of any size or make up.
Tradition funerals are not so stuck in their ways that they don’t adapt to modernity. While classic wreaths and coffin toppers are still popular, it’s kind of nice for children of a family and relatives to conjure up specific shapes or styles of funeral flower arrangements. These might be Butterflies, a football club emblem or a shape of their favourite pet, slogan text or quote.
Is It A Good Idea To Include A Message On Funeral Flowers?
They say less is more which is perhaps true, however when I have tried to express my sentiments towards someone’s loss I have tended to have more words than there is room on the card.
Which is when one resorts to the more traditional quotes and phrases which presents a feeling of guilt that you didn’t conjure up words that were more personal and meaningful.
To be quite frank though, a great many flowers may arrive for the funeral all week and being in the state the family is it’s doubtful many of the messages will be remembered.
It would be good in the first instance to try and write a personal message but what counts more is that a message of condolence arrives and that the flower arrangement is fitting.
There are many different ways to write funeral card messages. You could create your own symbolic phrasing or use well rehearsed quotes passed down through the ages. Types of messages you could consider are:
- “With the deepest of sympathy from… Uncle”
- “In loving memory of a dearly departed friend…”
- “Our hearts are befallen with sorrow and you will be missed dearly… Dad”
- “Just as with the seasons memories of you will be forever fresh… Cousin”
By all means include a message, to not include one at all would be remiss. The Funeral Director will arrange for these messages to be collected at the end of service so they can be kept for the family to make contact at a later date. This is usually built into a funeral plan as a service.
Is There A Deadline For Flower Delivery For Funerals?
Online flower shops are usually very good at turning around orders for flowers for any kind of occasion. Whether it be Birthdays, anniversaries or flowers for funerals. Many may ask for at least 24 hours notice and provide a deadline for last orders.
You also should consider that arrangements of the flower assembly may take a considerable time and that there may be different lead times for each product they need to produce. Which will require you to find an alternative stockist or choose a different arrangement if it’s more urgent.